Everyone has an opinion or perspective. Through my life I’ve been judged by the clothes I wear, the way I show affection even by the way I express myself. Either my clothes were too nice for the occasion or not nice enough. Either they were cheap or too expensive. Either I was showing off or I was dressing like a bum. I’ve heard that the way I show affection or even simple emotion is too brash or it’s too much. On the other hand I’ve heard that it’s not enough or it needs more emphasis because it’s too subtle. I’ve had people be offended by the way I express myself. They say it’s too crude or it’s too rigid during confrontations. Then I’ve had people say it’s too soft and leans too much towards leniency in situations of conflict.
There will always be something missing from someone or a group of people. I’ve only used simple examples but on a major scale, when I’ve watched all this play out, it showed me that there is no truly valid opinion outside of my own and the opinions of those I hold close enough to call family. I still, however, take in everything everyone says and show the due respect if that opinion is ever given respectfully and not through indirect means. I say all this but I am a seeker of truth and in that pursuit if my own opinion is not aligned with truth I will throw that opinion away without a second thought. When I look at who I am and what I am trying to represent in this world if my opinion doesn’t align I will throw it away without a second thought.
Before you form an opinion based on your perspective about me (or anyone for that matter) remember this; you are nothing but another human being same as me. Also keep in mind I judge myself more harshly than anyone else can or ever will because the standards I hold myself to I tell to no one. So ask yourself how many of them your opinions actually apply to you and the weaknesses you hide than to the person you are passing judgement on. On a less personal note, you can’t please everyone. Someone somewhere will always be offended or be conflicted by some aspect of you. However make sure that you are comfortable being who you are before you entertain any opinion outside yourself or they could destroy you…if that makes sense.